It took a tragic experience for me to realize how important loving communication is within a family.

When my son Gaston took his life when he was only 13, my world just seemed to fall apart, I blamed myself, I blamed others. I had so many emotions flowing through me that I wasn’t even sure who I was anymore.

The harder the lesson the greater the potential growth.

Since then I have dedicated my life to learning about relationships and healing wounds. I hired a coach, found my passion for families, got my PHD in phycology, went to various trainings including coaching training and Love and Logic training just to name a few. I have spent over a decade sharing what I have learned through classes, seminars and coaching.

If you want to learn skills that will help you have meaningful, loving relationships, I would love to support you in achieving your goals.

ONE ON ONE COACHING

I offer one on one coaching, for more details, please contact me……. HERE

GROUP

COACHING

Parents and Guardians:

You can put the group together with other parents that you know, creating a support system and accountability group.

I will show up in person or virtual to lead the group depending on your location and other factors.

Or, you can join one of my groups that I put together once or twice a year.

Educators:

I provide trainings that address the everyday issues involving students and coworkers. Wouldn’t it be great to create a  positive, encouraging environment in your workplace.

I can provide this education in person or virtual, depending on your location and other factors.

ONLINE

TRAINING

Although it’s always better to experience these trainings with others, there are times when schedules do not permit the flexibility; therefore, I have created online trainings, so that no matter what your circumstances are, you can create amazing relationships with those you care most about.

These skills work for any relationship!

SPEAKING

Whether you are an employer or lead a community group, I would love to speak with your group on a variety of topics that help us have more caring, compassionate relationships.

Contact Virginia

If I can serve you in any way in creating meaningful, loving, healthy relationships, please contact me.

ABOUT LOVE AND LOGIC

What is Love and Logic?

It is a coaching curriculum that teaches adults how to raise responsible children.  It equips adults with skills/tools that will allow them to take care of themselves so that they can be a “healthy” coach.  A coach, that uses Love and Logic to guide children to solve their own age appropriate problems. The primary goal is to help children learn how to make themselves behave so that they aren’t dependent upon rules, regulations, laws or incarceration to control their behavior

The founders of this program are Jim Faye and Foster Cline.  Jim was a teacher and Foster was a foster parent.  They got together in the late sixties and figured out how to provide empathy when children need it the most and deliver consequences that are creative and age appropriate while children are in “thinking mode.”  They figured out that anger, threats and manipulation don’t work because it puts people in the “fight or flight” mode which happens in the brain stem.  Responsibility grows in the thinking and problem solving part of the brain, the frontal cortex.  In order to develop children’s ability to think, they must be using their frontal cortex.  This happens when oxytocin is produced as a result of empathy.  Once a heavy dose of empathy is given the child can be given a logical or natural consequence.

If it is not obvious what that consequence should be, delaying the consequence is good, too.  Delayed consequence delivers a double whammy.  It is like having to “go out and pick your switch.”  It allows the adult to take care of themselves (calm down), get in the “thinking” part of their brain and get creative with the consequence.  Delayed consequence allows the child to anticipate what his consequence might be or should be.  Then if you get stuck and need some ideas about how to deliver a natural consequence, you can ask the child what he or she thinks.  You don’t have to use his or her idea just like he or she doesn’t have to use your ideas when you are giving suggestions on how they might need to solve their problem(s).

Most children do not feel loved because they have not been able to connect with parents, extended family, teachers and other mentors.  Some adults don’t know how to connect because they have become disconnected.  Love and Logic is about building relationships, treating children and adults with dignity and respect while raising (coaching) responsible children.  It is like using the “good neighbor policy.”  People are more open to what a “good” neighbor requests than what a “grumpy” neighbor demands.   That is human nature.